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There has been an issue with the ex-husband. A year ago, I informed him that the timeshare we own together didn’t have my name on their records so he needed to handle the timeshare, pay the yearly dues and find out what needed to be done to change the deed. A year later and I discover I have 1.3K in collections in both his name and mine because he didn’t take care of the issue and the company magically discovered my name when they didn’t get last year’s annual dues.
I now am having to find a lawyer because I need to get the deed changed and he won’t sign anything other than transferring the entire deed to me, something that is going to leave me 3k poorer before legal fees (I don’t have that kind of fucking money!) and then somehow get rid of the property myself so that I’m not having to continue to pay yearly dues that I can’t afford.
I’m so fucking triggered right now I can barely function. I’ve not been able to even call the base legal to find out if this is something that they can help me with because I’m so fucking triggered and switchy that I can’t handle the anxiety of talking about this out-loud right now, particularly to someone I don’t know, particularly with someone related to the military which already is a triggering issue for me. I also worry about going to base legal because I have to watch what I say to lawyers on base because of the timeline of my husband and I meeting and being involved. It means I’m probably not going to call them and will seek legal advice from a friend’s mother who is a lawyer, even if it is just getting her to recommend another lawyer who can work the issues.
The other thing, that is beyond simply going to base legal is the fact that there is no guarantee that they can help me. There is a limited number of things that they are authorized to assist with, and it is rarely things that are actually useful other than powers of attorney or wills. They could advise me about an issue for free, but they can’t draw up paperwork on a number of issues so I don’t see the point in going to them if I’m risking a lot by talking to them and they probably can’t help me do what I need to for the paperwork portion of things anyhow.
In addition to this I also need to get my husband on my younger son’s birth certificate and change both my son’s names so their last names match ours. These are all things that are immensely triggering to even focus on, but things that seriously need to be handled so I can remove the last traces of my ex out of my life. I’m not sure how to proceed, but maybe if I can talk to my friend’s mom then I can get the beginning of an idea…even if it costs me more money.
Lets just simplify the whole situaiton: I am willing to pay whatever it fucking takes to get the last traces of my abusive fuckhead of an ex out of my life for good. I don’t want to see his name, I don’t want to have to deal with his godforsaken wife because he doesn’t have the balls to talk to me and has convinced her that I was abusive to him!!! I want to be free of them and right now I’m not…the trauma is dragging along because I’m not yet truly free.